Gulya DiyarovaEmotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples and individuals

Relationship counselling & Psychosexual therapy for couples & individuals

Central London, Cavendish Square

About Me

Scope of my work

I specialise in working with distressed couples on a wide range of emotional, relational and sexual concerns:

- relationship and marital difficulties,

- pre-divorce and separation or highly ambivalent couples (Discernment Counseling- in Training),

- sexual problems and symptoms including internet/porno addictions,

- anxieties around sexual performance,

- erectile and ejaculatory difficulties,

- problems with desire and arousal,

- various anxieties,

- trauma and loss,

- low self-esteem,

- difficulties in developing relationships and chronic loneliness,

- anger issues,

- parenting related problems,

- depression,

- pre-nuptial counseling

I work in many modalities integrated within Emotionally Focused Therapy model, with different and challenging life stage transitions and kinds of relationship, if you are married or not, long-term partners or more recent, separated or together, heterosexual, gay or lesbian – and most importantly the relationship with yourself.

My first career in Moscow was as a medical doctor for nearly 20 years, paediatrician and clinical neurologist, with PostGraduate qualifications in child development and neuropathology. I moved to the UK in 1993 and later on retrained in Systemic therapy, Psychodynamic approach, Cognitive-Behavioural Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Early Attachment and Psychopathology,

Trauma therapy, Polyvagal theory and its clinical application, among others, and as a Psychosexual therapist.

Education and major Qualifications

- Medical doctor, State Medical University, Kazan, Russia
- Clinical ordinature/residency, State Medical University, Kazan, Russia
- Post-qualifying training in Paediatrics, Child Development and Neuropathology, Moscow, Russia
- Certificate in Couple counselling, Relate Institute, London
- PostGrad Diploma in Relationship and Psychosexual therapy, Relate Institute, London
- MSc in Psychosexual Therapy and Relationship, Tavistock Centre, London
- Externship in EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) with the founder of EFT Dr Sue Johnson, Core Skills training, ICEEFT, Canada
- Certified Emotionally Focused couple therapist (EFT) and supervisor, ICEEFT, Canada

Selected Additional Post-qualifying Training

- Complex Trauma, TIST model (Traima-Informed Stabilisation Treatment) with Dr Janine Fisher
- Applications from Interpersonal Neurobiology approach: How Attachment, Trauma & Temperament Shape Personality (Dr Dan Siegel)
- The Body Keeps the Score - Trauma Healing Through the Senses with Dr Bessel van der Kolk
 - Using Sensorymotor Psychotherapy to Treat Complex Trauma (Dr Pat Ogden)
- Working with Narcissism: Essential Strategies for Treating Narcissism, Severe Traumatisation, Abuse and Neglect (Dr Ch. Sanderson)

- IFS (Internal Family Systems) and its application to complex trauma/PTSD (Dr F. Anderson)

- ADHD, Autism and Trauma: Integrating Polyvagal Theory, Sensorimotor Psychotherapy and IFS When Working with Neurodivergent Clients
- Finding Meaning in Loss (Grief Therapy) with D Kessler
- Working with Suicide using IFS to Heal Traumatic Wounds (Dr Frank Anderson)
- Gottman Method Couples Therapy Level 1 Training
- Attachment Theory and Couple Work (Chris Clulow, PhD, Tavistock)
- Couples and Affairs (Relate Institute, Doncaster)
- Healing Affairs using Emotionally Focused Therapy (Prof Scott Woolley, PhD)
- Integrative Counselling Psychology and Psychotherapy (Metanoia Institute, London)
- Fundamentals of Cognitive-Behavioural Therapy (Institute of Psychiatry, London)
- Attachment and Neuroscience (Glyn Hudson, PhD, London)
- Advanced Training in Person-Centered Counselling Practice: Emotion-Focused
Psychotherapy, Level 1 (University of Strathclyde, Prof Robert Elliott)
- Emotion-Focused Therapy for Individuals (Prof Robert Elliott, PhD)
- Core Supervision Course (Centre for Supervision and Team Development, London)
- Supervising Systemically (Institute of Family Therapy, London)
- Neuroplasticity and Emotional Processes of the Brain (Alan Schore, PhD, London)
- Advanced Skills in Couple Work, 4-Day Summer School (Tavistock Centre, London)
- Cognitive-Behavioural Therapy, Core Clinical Competencies (Christine Padesky, PhD, London)
- Attachment and Psychopathology (Patricia Critenden, PhD, Tavistock)
- Sexual Addiction, Men and women (ATSAC, London)
- Attachment and Trauma Congress, ISC, London

I was the first UK therapist trained and certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and qualified as and EFT supervisor.
EFT is the attachment-based warm and collaborative approach, developed by Drs Sue Jonson and Lesley Greenberg, where couples learn to recognise their habitual negative patterns of ‘blame-distance’ or ‘attack-withdraw’ and are able to change them into a safe and loving way of relating.

I pioneered Emotionally Focused Therapy in the UK and have been staging EFT training in London since 2009 with Gail Palmer (co-founder of the approach) and Dr. Scott Woolley, international trainers and close associates of Sue Johnson, actively participating in all stages of EFT training.

I am Director and Organising Committee of EFT INTERNATIONAL SCHOOL staging Annual International EFT Summer Schools in London, UK. I have also been presenting to the School EFT Newcomers Stream annually since 2016.

I am Director of Re-connect...EFT Clinic in Central London, Cavendish Sq, where I lead a team of highly qualified and experienced psychotherapists to help individuals, relationships and families to restore and rebuild their connection, strength, well-being, closeness, and trust with your significant others and in yourself again.

EFT consultations/supervision/CPD

• As an ICEEFT certified EFT therapist and supervisor and in addition to my clinical work, I supervise EFT therapists and graduate/postgraduate trainees in person, groups and via Skype.
  
  I am one of only a few certified EFT supervisor/consultants in the UK for the time being.
• I offer guidance and coaching through the formal EFT application and certification process to advanced EFT students and can provide specific examples of successful submissions, feedback on your work and support.
• I lead EFT Continuous Professional Development groups and EFT workshops, regular EFT Supervision groups, EFT Movie Club and Skills Lab.
  
  I am a former tutor on MSc programme at Tavistock Centre for Couple Relationship (TCCR)
  
  Professional Memberships
  I am UKCP registered, an Accredited member of COSRT (British Association-College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists), a registered member of ICEEFT (International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy, Canada).
  I follow and abide by their Code of Practice and Ethics.
  
  My work is regularly supervised and the supervision is bound by the the same Code of Practice and Ethics.
  
  Gulya, Director of and a regular presenter at the EFT INTERNATIONAL SCHOOL conferences, is a proud recipient of ICEEFT John Douglas Reward 2017 "For tireless and often behind the scenes contributions to EFT".